Do fathers go through patrescence?

Do fathers go through patrescence?

On an episode of the Golden Mic Podcast with Marc Cordon, Dr. Sonal Patel talked about the idea of patrescence as being a similar transformation as matrescence.

Patrescence is a term used to describe the spiritual, emotional, and psychological changes that occur in fathers during the postpartum period. The term patrescence was first introduced by Dr. Will Courtenay, a clinical psychologist, and has since gained recognition as an important aspect of postpartum care for fathers. It is important to understand the changes that occur during patrescence in order to better support fathers during this transition.

Just as mothers experience physical, emotional, and psychological changes during matrescence, fathers also experience changes as they adjust to their new role as a parent. During patrescence, fathers may experience a range of emotions, such as stress, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy. These emotions can result from a variety of factors, including the adjustment to the responsibilities of parenthood, the pressure to provide financially for the family, and a shift in priorities.

  1. Changes in Identity: During patrescence, fathers may experience changes in their identity as they adjust to their new role as a parent. This can include feelings of loss of self, uncertainty about their abilities as a parent, and a shift in priorities. Fathers may also experience a sense of displacement as they navigate their new role and responsibilities. It is important for fathers to seek support from others during this time and to understand that these feelings are normal.
  2. Emotional Changes: The emotional changes that occur during patrescence can be intense and difficult to navigate. Many fathers experience feelings of anxiety, stress, and irritability. This can be caused by the pressure to provide for their family, the adjustment to the responsibilities of parenthood, and the stress of caring for a newborn. It is important for fathers to seek support from friends and family, and to talk to their healthcare provider if they are feeling overwhelmed.
  3. Changes in Relationships: The postpartum period can also bring about changes in relationships for fathers. Fathers may experience tension in their relationships with their partners, as they navigate the new roles and responsibilities of parenthood. Relationships with friends and family may also change as fathers prioritize their role as a parent. It is important for fathers to communicate their needs and to seek support from their loved ones during this time.
  4. The Importance of Involvement: Research has shown that fathers who are actively involved in the care of their newborn have better outcomes for both the father and the child. Fathers who take an active role in the care of their newborn experience increased bonding and a sense of connection with their child. They also report increased satisfaction with their role as a parent and better mental health outcomes. Examples can include changing diapers or skin to skin with their newborns.  Even with breastfeeding, if fathers view the outcome as providing optimal nutrition for their newborn, helping out with cleaning breast equipment, feeding the mother, and helping with the latch and hold are all great ways to be involved.  

Patrescence is an important aspect of postpartum care that should not be overlooked. Understanding the spiritual, emotional, and psychological changes that occur during this time can help fathers better navigate the postpartum period. It is important for fathers to seek support and care during this transition, and to understand that these changes are normal and a natural part of the patrescence process. If you are a father and are feeling overwhelmed, it is important to reach out to your healthcare provider for help or contact us to help navigate your needs and right care. 

By acknowledging and supporting fathers during the postpartum period, we can improve outcomes for fathers, mothers, and children.

Do fathers go through patrescence?

The answer is yes.

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5 things that happen with matrescence

5 things that happen with matrescence

Matrescence is a term used to describe the new motherhood experience and the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that occur in a woman’s body during the postpartum period. The term matrescence was first coined by Dr. Alexandra Sacks, a reproductive psychiatrist, and used by researchers such as Dr Aurelie Athan from the Department of Counseling and Clinical Psychology, Teachers College, Columbia University in New York, and author of “The Postnatal Depletion Cure: A Complete Guide to Rebuilding Your Health and Reclaiming Your Energy for Mothers of Newborns, Toddlers, and Young Children” Dr Oscar Serrallach has since gained recognition as an important aspect of postpartum care. This transition can be a challenging time for many mothers, but it is important to understand the changes that occur during matrescence in order to better navigate the postpartum period. 

In an article by matrescence activist Amy Taylor Kabbaz points to medical anthropologist Dana Raphael’s take on matrescence.

“The critical transition period which has been missed is matrescence — the time of mother-becoming,” Raphael said. “Giving birth does not automatically make a mother out of a woman … The amount of time it takes to become a mother needs study.”

As a result, it is impowertant for everyone to know what happens during matrescence and how to navigate through a time of identity, physical, emotional and pscyhological changes in a new mother, and how to support her.

Here are 5 things that happen with matrescence:

  1. Hormonal Changes: One of the biggest changes that occur during matrescence is hormonal fluctuations. After giving birth, women experience a rapid decline in hormones such as estrogen and progesterone, which can result in physical symptoms such as mood swings, headaches, fatigue, and hot flashes. Hormonal changes also play a role in the development of postpartum depression and anxiety, so it is important for mothers to be aware of these changes and to seek help if necessary.
  2. Physical Recovery: The physical recovery from giving birth can be a long and challenging process. During early motherhood, women may experience discomfort and pain as their bodies heal from the birth process. This can include abdominal soreness, pelvic pain, and incision pain if a woman had a cesarean section. Birthing mothers may also experience difficulty with bladder control, vaginal dryness, and sexual dysfunction. It is important for women to take care of themselves physically during this time and understand that it’s ok to be selfish about sleep, naps, and just lying down. Drinking adequate water, water with electrolytes and nutrition are key in long term healing. Snacks, fruits, and nuts are easy options for in between the three meals. Seek help if any concerns arise that make you worried or uncomfortable. Don’t forget to ask for a pelvic physical therapist referral at your 6 week postpartum appointment.
  3. Emotional Changes: The emotional changes that occur during matrescence can be intense and difficult to navigate after birth. Many women experience feelings of sadness, postnatal depression, anxiety, guilt, and irritability. This can be caused by hormonal changes, physical discomfort, and the stress of adjusting to life with a new baby. It is important for women to seek support from friends and family. Be open with your feelings with your partner and to talk to their healthcare provider if emotions are overwhelming. Seeking a postpartum doula or therapist is also a great option for maintaining wellbeing.
  4. Changes in Identity: During matrescence, the new mother identity may feel like having an entirely new identity as they adjust to their new role as a mother. This can include feelings of loss of self, uncertainty about their abilities as a parent, and a shift in priorities. It is important for women to seek support from others during this time, and to understand that these feelings are normal.
  5. Changes in Relationships: The postpartum period can also bring about changes in relationships. Women may experience tension in their relationships with their partners, as they navigate the roles as new parents and responsibilities of parenthood. Relationships with friends and family may also change as women prioritize their role as a mother. It is important for women to communicate their needs and to seek support from their loved ones during this time.

Matrescence is an important aspect of a mother’s birth story. As such, it becomes an important part of the identity of any birthing person. As a result, postpartum care should not be overlooked. Understanding the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that occur during this time can help mothers better navigate the postpartum period. It is important for women to seek support and care during this transition, and to understand that these changes are normal and a natural part of the matrescence process. Additionally, the good enough mother approach is important for the new mom to be sincere in her preoccupation with being a mother and provide a holding environment that is attuned to her child’s changing needs during the fourth trimester. If you are a mother and are feeling overwhelmed, it is important to reach out to your healthcare provider for help or contact us to help navigate your needs and right care. Interestingly enough, fathers go through their own transformation entitled patrescence .

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